Season 2,
52 MINS

Episode 19: Asha Kreimer – Part 2

March 27, 2017

In this second and final part of our coverage of the Asha Kreimer story, we speak to her longtime boyfriend, Jamai Gayle. Jamai discusses his experience, helping to clarify some of the major details in Asha’s disappearance, such as what exactly what happened during Asha’s mental health crisis, how she left the restaurant that day, and what happened immediately afterward.

Asha and Jamai, date unknown

Asha with Tessa, the German Shepard on the right, who went missing the same day Asha did.

If you have any information, please contact the Mendocino County Sheriff’s Department at 707-463-4086.

Links:

Help Find Asha Kreimer Facebook Page

Help Find Asha GoFundMe Page, Supporting Jeannie’s search/investigation

Asha’s NamUs Page

Wikipedia Page on Asha’s Disappearance

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7 comments

  1. James D says:

    Thank you for this episode. I empathize with Jamai, as I found myself in a similar, but less severe position with an exgirlfriend: she was having her first major psychotic manic episode. Luckily she was found by the police and safely delivered to the psychward, though she was found naked, covered in scrapes and scratches, and laying in the middle of the street muttering to herself. I thought I had caused her to go crazy. It can be really difficult to handle a friend who’s lost it, especially under the circumstances Jamai faced it in. Its horrifying and exhausting work and while you just get more and more tired, they just get more delusional. It can be horrifying just watching someone you love and trust morph into a crazy beast that you can hardly recognize. I hope Jamai has people to talk to about it because hearing him recount the events even had me fighting back tears while trying to finish up my workday on the computer. Thank you for awesome podcast.

  2. Diana R. says:

    I don’t believe Jamal. He says sally was concerned about asha earlier on in his explanation. Then when asha disappears sally all of a sudden was tired and wanted to go back home. That sally didn’t realize asha was having a mental issue and didn’t think it was serious. I’m sorry but if a friend of mine, esp someone so close I would have considered a sister, no matter how tired I was I wouldn’t want to sleep. I would be kept awake by the adrenaline of where is she. Hell go get a coffee from the cafe and keep looking. I also didn’t like how he mentioned her trying to get into someone’s car and the family didn’t let her but this “creepy” man was going to let her. How did he see that man well enough to think he looked creepy if he was following a distance behind her. Also misses their appt to take a drive? A drive so she can sleep yet stops to get her coffee at this cafe because she likes coffee? He’s way to detailed and has an answer for everything. I work at a law firm and read depositions sometimes. It becomes easier and easier to see how liars tell stories.

    1. thinairpodcast says:

      Hi Diana,
      We couldn’t find Sally to speak with her about her behavior during this time, but it seems like her whole demeanor was strange this weekend, or at least that’s how Jamai explained it. I agree that she seemed apathetic about what was going on with Asha, but I haven’t spoken with her, so I’m not sure if this is accurate or not. But that does seem to be Jamai’s perspective. -Jordan

  3. Diana R. says:

    I commented before finishing the episode. Jamai calls the accusations of him abusing her borderliine crazy. Then retracts borderline. A little Freudian slip? If there were none then it would have been either that’s not true one bit or just plain crazy. Also when asked why her fmailyndont like him he fumbles around but never gives a reason. Where he thinks she is? On a pot farm. 🤔 Who is the one who was arrested for possession of marijuana and blood level over .08. That’s right him. He also says she “kind of disappeared” at one point. Kind of? Why kind of? Because you know where the body is so she hasn’t really disappeared. That’s like saying I’m kind of pregnant. You either are or aren’t. Then goes on to say if the hospital staff would of taken her he wonders how diff his life would be. Shouldn’t he mean if they had taken her she’d still be here with him. Just as I stated with sally being to tired and not realizing this was a mental health issue, well if HE realized and loved her after being with her so long, he should of told sally sleep in the car but I’m not leaving. ESP not having ever met her. He was more concerned about getting this stranger, to him, home to sleep instead of his gf who he knows is having a mental health issue? And I’ll lastly say this, only time in the podcast I hear any hint of him about to cry it’s when he was complaining the hospital didn’t take her and he was so tired from taking care of her for weeks and weeks and HE is a victim of not enough mental healcare avaiable.

    1. thinairpodcast says:

      I am inclined to believe Jamai simply because she was seen at the restaurant that day. We know she was there, and was seen in the area afterwards without Jamai or Sally. I don’t know when Jamai would have done anything to hurt her or to make her go missing: there’s no timeline to make that happen that I can come up with.
      I think he begins to cry at the hospital story because they should have taken her. She was clearly a danger to herself and others, and needed help. Maybe if she would have gotten help, she wouldn’t be missing today.
      I think we hear his perspective so much because I asked him how he felt and how the situation affected him, that’s just how the interview was structured.
      Asha’s mother has also expressed that she hopes Asha made it to the safety of a pot farm.
      I think he realizes that he made mistakes. I don’t think he had anything to do with her disappearance as far as making her disappear.
      Also, thank you so much for listening. There were some things that the family did not want me to make public, but we did try and present a fair story on both sides.
      -Jordan

  4. Liz says:

    They were supposed to call/visit a medical clinic instead the boyfriend drives 30 min away for breakfast?! That is fishy. The boyfriend is guilty. If i had a bf who was acting like asha, wandering around and not mentally stable, i wouldnt want to take him anywhere. Just stay home until help can be given to her and definitely call his family so they can help too.

    1. thinairpodcast says:

      Hi Liz,
      It’s hard for me to understand this too… but not being in the situation, I don’t know what I would have done. It’s easy to look back and think, oh man, they should not have gone for that drive. They should have just stayed home. But as Jamai said, she was compulsively running out of the house… it would be hard to know what to do, especially if the hospital turned you away. Thank you for listening! -Jordan

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